Welcome to Ask SEND Edventures. We answer your questions about supporting children and young people with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND). Whether you’re navigating a tricky conversation, trying to access support, or looking for practical ideas, we’re here to help. If you have a question, send it in and we’ll do our best to offer guidance that suits your situation.
Q: My son is 4 years old, and I think he might be autistic, but my partner is in denial and won’t discuss it. Every time I bring it up, he says our son will grow out of it. How do I approach this?
A: It can be incredibly challenging when parents aren’t on the same page, especially when it comes to something as important as your child’s development. Start by creating a safe, non-confrontational space to share your concerns and hear each other out. Focus on specific behaviours or challenges you’ve observed rather than labelling them as “autistic” right away—for example, difficulties with communication or sensory sensitivities—and explain how early support could help. Sharing resources like the NHS Autism Overview or the National Autistic Society can show that seeking help isn’t about labels; it’s about giving your child the best chance to thrive. It’s okay if it takes time for you both to align.
Q: My DS is 8 and autistic. He has managed well in mainstream school until now, but he’s started to struggle—especially in English, where subtleties are harder to grasp. How can we support him?
A: As demands increase, language-heavy subjects can expose difficulty. Support him with structure and clarity: use visual aids, story maps and break complex ideas into smaller steps. Social stories or short scripts can explain metaphors and figurative language more literally and reduce anxiety. Speak to school about targeted support (e.g., focused intervention groups, SALT input). You’ll also find practical tips via Ambitious about Autism.
Q: Sometimes when my teenage child, who uses a wheelchair, boards the bus, people with prams need to move. Most are kind, but a few react negatively. How can I handle this calmly and confidently?
A: Wheelchair spaces are a legal requirement—your child has every right to them. A calm, assertive phrase can defuse tension: “Thanks for your understanding,” or “This space is essential for us.” Focus on the supportive majority and protect your own peace. For guidance on rights and tricky interactions, see Transport for All, and for wider advocacy advice, Scope.
Q: I’ve been trying to get a diagnosis for my daughter, but school keeps saying she’s “fine” in class—even though she struggles at home. What can I do?
A: Start documenting what you see at home—behaviours, triggers, patterns (e.g., mornings, homework, bedtime). Meet with the SENCO and class teacher to share specific examples and the impact on daily life. Keep the tone collaborative, but be clear about needs. If support remains slow, you can request an Education, Health and Care Needs Assessment (EHCNA) directly from your local authority. The charity IPSEA offers excellent legal guidance and templates for navigating the process.
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Disclaimer: The information in this article is provided for general interest and should not be considered medical, therapeutic or educational advice. Families are encouraged to seek support from qualified professionals regarding individual needs or concerns.
